Saturday, March 7, 2009

It's Been One Of Those...

You know, one of those.
One of those days. One of those weeks. Sadly, sometimes it feels like it is evolving to be one of those years.

You understand. Right?

One of those days where you feel pain on the side of your nose. Nature, telling you that inevitably a red mountain the size of Timpanogos is going to erupt...you just don't know when.

Or when after getting ready to exercise you are reminded of a certain breakfast item when you glance at yourself in the mirror.Or a pre-pubescent boy. Genetics. That seemingly only you out of all of your sisters seemed to inherit. (When are they coming out with padded sports bras?) Just one of those things.

When the dry cleaners calls to say they have put a hole in your favorite jacket. They would like to do something about it. You go and accept their offer to "make it right" and come out of there angry, without your jacket, because they have to keep it for insurance purposes. Whatever!

We've all been there.

Days when you feel like you just can't get it together. You lose things. Your child decides to spill juice all over you while in public. Those kind of things happen to everyone.

Just not all at the same time.

You all know the stuff that has happened in the last little while. This is where it just starts to get funny.

The culminating event:
Brian and I made a New Years Resolution to meet new friends and reconnect with old ones. Sadly, we don't get out much. I think that I know two people from my former life that live within my city's limits. SO-we (I) decided to invite people from our new ward over since it had been 6 months and not one invitation was extended. I had the grand idea spring from something that my parent's used to do as a ward activity called "Friendship Dinners". Each person was given an assignment to bring to the party, hosts rotated and eventually everyone in the ward was able to get together with everyone else. You were exposed to those that you might have just said, "Hi" to in the hall, but would have not really gotten to know otherwise. I was excited. I set up themes. February was going to be fondue. Something that I knew I could pull off well. I asked our Bishop in January who he thought would be good candidates for our first party. He gave me a list of names.

The invitations went out. I got RSVP's, I bought decorations, planned and planned. This is a party that Angela and Phyllis would have been clamoring to be on the committee for.

The date is looming near. Cole gets hospitalized, etc. I have to reschedule. My bishop mentions to me that "I know you are trying to make new friends, but don't you think this is kind of dramatic?"; mentioning the paramedics and fire truck in front of our home. Gotta love him. Really.

People are understanding about the change. A few can not make it the next week due to prior commitments. I get a resounding "sure, we'll be there" from the majority. I even invite others to fill the vacancies. So, I plan some more.

Last night. No one showed up.

It looked great though.
We even got desperate and started calling people. Wow. I am a loser after all. I don't even want to calculate how much food I threw away.

To tell you the truth, I am not surprised. It fits in with the theme. Hey, will you be my friend? I feel like I need to go to a self-esteem seminar or something! Maybe I can start hiring people, like an escort service, but just to come over to my house and get free food. All in all it was a good laugh.

Really? Can you think of someone else with this kind of luck? Lisa was right when she made this statement when I was flat on my back in a parking lot.

So please...for my sake. If you tell someone that you are going to come to an event; at least call and let them know you are not going to be able to make it. That way they can get desperate early enough to call in reinforcements.

13 comments:

Heather said...

Oh Nikki...I can't believe that no one called you! (by the way I think this is the first time I have commented on your blog. Its Heather (Larson) Jordan...remember me?) Any hoo...I can't believe it! I would never dream of not showing up without calling!! That is the kind of thing we call in our house "unacceptable behavior" Wow..truly unbelievable! I'm so sorry! It did look lovely though!

momharm said...

I'm laughing to keep from crying!! I have an irresitible urge to say "Oh sweetheart, those kids that don't want to play with you just don't know what a great friend you can be!!" (It worked when you kids were little:)

Krissy said...

Nik, if I wasn't in St. George I would have been all over that fondue as a reinforcement/fill-in guest. It really looks delicious! I can't wait until we can swim OUTSIDE... why is the winter so long again?

Lisa said...

Nik,
the other day you said we really need to stop hanging out together I think because our bad luck keeps rubbing off on each other. I actually think we need to hang out more because our lives are so different and yet so the same. I really get this post. Love ya!

What are the chances that we have fam from the cheney side during both fondue parties?

Lisa

Alissa said...

You should have just turned it into a cousin party. You know the Harmans can't resist good food!

Love the lamps! It looked great.

Jessica said...

Well I will revert back to the good old days: "Who do you want me to beat up first?!!" I'll do it for you Nik I was not above it then and I'm not above it now! Too bad that food looks yummy! Ben's thoughts on the matter would have been: Yes, more for Me! He'll take food over friends any day of the week!

Anonymous said...

oh man you should have called us!!!! We live in Kaysville! I would have enjoyed all your food!!! I hope your day gets better!

Makai Wise said...

Ok Lady.. So are you going to throw a party here in April because I seriously want me some fondue=) I am sorry those people out there don't know how to pick up a phone. Any time you want to move to Sunshiney Florida...Saint Cloud and the Wise Family will be waiting... Lots of Love Missy..can't wait to hang out in April.
( I was serious about the fondue , by the way)

Makai Wise said...

oh, p.s. We just got year passes to the Brevard Zoo because they have a really cool new water play area for the kids. With our new pass I can take a friend for free...so let me know when you guys come because if you want to hang with me and the kids at the zoo I can get you and Cole in Free and you would only have to pay for Brian. See you soon.

Erin Axson said...

Robert and I would love to be reinforcements! When he gets home in the summer, we will have to do a BBQ with all of the ricks girls and their families! Plus, if they dont show-up, we know where they live...
Sorry about lame people.

Gingyroo said...

I've been in the very same situation. I'm VERy sorry. What can I say? People are flakes. It looked great.

Carrie and Jeff said...

I'm am floored that no one showed up. They don't know what they are missing! I love your fondue parties. You are the best host...ever! You should've called us...we love to eat...and we love you guys too.

Krista said...

love ya Niki! silly people in your ward! :P